War in Ukraine: Should we talk about it with young children?
It’s hard to miss the point, but if your child hasn’t told you about the war in Ukraine, should you? When he talks to you about it, how do you react? One thing is for sure, the way you talk about it needs to be appropriate to your child’s age and maturity. Here’s advice from Canadian psychologists posted on the Conversation website.
Young children under the age of 5 are generally advised not to discuss a tragic event unless they ask questions. However, if your toddler does talk to you about it, don’t avoid the topic to help them manage their emotions. Of course, he will have a very limited understanding of the situation. It is therefore necessary to give him simple information and not go into detail. Tell him, for example, that “one country behaves badly with another country” and that “it makes people angry,” psychologists suggest. It is also important not to expose him to media images and adult conversations.
School children are more exposed to the news. Start by asking your child if they have heard of what is happening in Ukraine and what they know about it. Make sure you are calm, relaxed and have enough time before having this conversation. If your child seems unaffected by the situation or knows little, you can settle for a brief conversation. On the other hand, if you find him disturbing, you can say, “It’s always scary to think about war; Most children and adults are afraid, just like you. The most important thing is that your child feels reassured and protected.
For more advice, see The Conversation: How to Talk to Children About the War in Ukraine.
Homework: How can you help your child become independent?
Believe it or not, one day your child will do their homework on their own! But until then, he needs your help to develop his autonomy and organize himself.
Your child’s independence will develop gradually as you give them age-appropriate tasks. For example, you can ask him to empty his lunch box, get out the necessary materials for his homework, determine the order in which he will do his homework, check the schedule for the next day in his agenda, etc. This is how he develops one Working method… as long as he doesn’t take anything away from him.
Supervise the homework time less and less. Encourage your child to find the solutions and answers themselves. If he’s wrong, remind him that it’s okay to make mistakes, that you make them too, and that’s how we learn.
Taking the initiative also helps your child become more independent. So encourage him when he tells you he wants to do something he’s never done before, like make his lunch.
Remember to praise progress and effort, not just achievement. For example, compliment your child when they start doing their homework on their own without you having to do anything.
Source: Radio Canada
Breastfeeding: good for mother’s heart health
Women who breastfeed are less likely to develop and die from heart problems, shows a recent study that analyzed the results of eight studies conducted on 1.2 million women between 1986 and 2009.
The results show that women who breastfed their babies are up to 11% less likely to develop cardiovascular disease than women who never breastfed. The researchers observed that cardiovascular risk gradually decreased with breastfeeding for up to 12 months.
These women would also have a lower risk of developing coronary artery disease (up to 14%), which can lead to a heart attack or cardiac arrest, suffering a stroke (up to 12%), and dying from cardiovascular disease (up to 12%). up to 17%).
Previous studies have also shown that breastfeeding can help reduce mothers’ risk of developing type 2 diabetes and certain types of cancer, including breast and ovarian cancer.
Source: American Heart Association
Child optimism explained
Is your toddler convinced he can beat you at cards? It’s not surprising! Children are said to be naturally very optimistic but become more realistic as they get older, a UK study shows.
The researchers realized that the younger the children, the more likely they were to ignore negative situations and bad outcomes from previous experiences. Teenagers, on the other hand, would learn more from these situations, leading them to be more realistic.
Hyperoptimism would be useful because it would help children have ambitious goals and overcome challenges, the study authors believe. In addition, optimism contributes to good mental health, among other things. Several studies have shown that a lack of optimism can lead to depression.
This study was conducted with 108 young people between the ages of 8 and 17 who were asked to play a video game in which they had to collect treasures from different planets. Participants had to learn certain information about these planets and then predict how much treasure they thought they would find there. While all players overestimated the amount of treasure they expected to collect, younger players had much more optimistic predictions than teenagers.
March 10, 2022
From the Born and Grow team
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