Inna Modja confides in her life as a mother

It’s not for nothing that singer Inna Modja, mother of little Valentina, 2 years and 3 months, made it onto the cover of our green issue. Very committed to the planet, it multiplies actions for ecology. She talks about the upheaval of motherhood that was a true tsunami in her life.

Pregnancy and birth of Inna Modja

How did you experience the pregnancy and birth?

I had a very special pregnancy, I spent a total of 7 months in bed! I lost blood in the first trimester of pregnancy, so I stayed home. Then things got better, we traveled and had a great summer. Then I had to have a cerclage of the cervix for the last four months to avoid a premature birth. This waiting was stressful, not being able to go out, not being able to do anything… it’s thought provoking and creates a lot of anxiety. At 36 weeks my waters ruptured, my strapping was removed. My daughter had her cord wrapped around her neck twice. So I had an emergency c-section. Three days later I was up and my daughter was small (2.3 kg) but very fit. I had waited so long that I soon resumed an active life. Everything was quickly forgotten!

What would you like to have known before you were born?

I would have liked to know a little more about thempostpartum anxiety. I had never heard of it and lived with it for over a year. I was always afraid for my daughter, uncontrollable fear. I didn’t think about postpartum depression because I didn’t feel the symptoms. I even thought my life would be like this forever, constantly anxious. I slept very little at first. I was very happy, everyone was fine, but I lived in fear. I picked up the sport again, found my body quickly, but it was something different for my head! I would have liked to have been better accompanied. The pandemic started three months after my daughter was born. Then there was the childbirth, which made me worry about the future in addition to the stress about my daughter. It was very hard for a year. We didn’t see anyone, we had no help and we were exhausted! It’s amazing how you can be very happy and very scared at the same time. When my daughter started walking, I freaked out! She could bump into anything, stones fall on it… it seems ridiculous but at the time I lived it to the fullest as if there was a life or death threat. I was always very well surrounded by my family, my friends from the Maison des Femmes (a center for women in need or victims of violence of which she is a sponsor)… My companion was a great support, he was omnipresent with our daughter. Today I forgot everything as for delivery!

How did you break the news to the father-to-be?

I got pregnant on the first try! I had bought some Tests of ovulation at the pharmacy told me that nothing had happened. I had to do it 4 days in a row. We said we would try anyway and if it didn’t work we would find out in 6 months. Since my periods are very regular, I was surprised to see that I was a few days late, but I didn’t think for a moment that I was pregnant. One morning, getting up at dawn, I made one pregnancy test and… I was pregnant! I wanted to wake up my friend and we started jumping and dancing in the bedroom. It was gone.

Inna Modja’s life as a mother

Did you breastfeed?

I practiced mixed breastfeeding with Baby food 3 months because I didn’t have much milk. But I was exhausted. The pediatrician told me to stop, it doesn’t make me a bad mom. However, my daughter preferred the bottle! I told myself that I would breastfeed her for at least a year, but I didn’t want to see it as a failure. I thought, “Okay, that’s it. »

What parenting style are you?

We are both very present and live a very simple life. We go for a walk every day. We’ll walk on the beach, we’ll go to the farm, see horses… Valentina is a tornado! Since she started school, her development has accelerated! She talks a lot more, she is happy, she learns a lot. She is very agile, she climbs everywhere. With his father, it’s Cirque du Soleil! They are brought up without gender stereotypes. We bought her trucks, dolls for children… We give her choices and make sure she learns not to put herself in danger. We let it be autonomous, we trust it and we regulate it when necessary. But now she’s the boss of the house!

What values ​​would you like to pass on to your daughter?

Respect others and have love for yourself. That she listens to herself and doesn’t let herself be trampled on (but I think she gets that already!).

Inna Modja’s ecological commitment

Tell us about your ecological commitment. how did it start

I am from Mali. In the Sahel, global warming is having a real impact on daily life. The majority of people in the region make a living from some form of agriculture. A little over 10 years ago I started getting involved, getting interested sustainable fashion, to permaculture. 5 years ago I started working at the United Nations. I am a climate ambassador. We made a documentary that we shot about the project for two years The Great Green Wall which aims to restore degraded land and plant trees across Africa from Senegal to Djibouti. We have raised more than 20 billion funds. We are very proud. Finally, I created a technical structure to use the blockchain for the benefit of sustainable development through NFTs. We did an NFT auction in Davos and it was carbonate negative. On the music side, I had slacked off because my tour had been canceled due to the pandemic. I’ve started working on a new album, but I don’t push myself, I take my time. I’m fortunate to have a community that has followed me since the beginning and is still around today, so we’ll see you again when the time is right!

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