In Eure, Natalia, a Ukrainian refugee woman, gave birth to a baby born through surrogacy to her parents

Valeria, 12, her mother Nataliia, 38, and her sister Kristina, 9, are staying in Cormeilles and thank the residents.
Valeria, 12, her mother Nataliia, 38, and her sister Kristina, 9, are staying in Cormeilles and thank the residents. (© The awakening of Pont-Audemer)

The sun sets over the peaceful garden where the residents of Cormeilles (your) invited her to freshen up after a shopping spree for her two daughters, a thousand miles from the bombsUkraine. this is there Natalia38 years old and mother of Valeria, 12 years old, and Kristina, 9 years old, found shelter but above all a welcome with open arms.

On March 6, they fled their country, where Natalia’s husband stayed to fight. Sometimes his gaze gets lost in the distance. is she thinking about him “Of course,” she says in English. I wake up at night to see the news because I’m scared. You never know where the next bomb will fall. And my mother is still there, as is my brother. »

Maybe this online English teacher also remembers the days before her departure:

“When there were sirens, we went to my mother-in-law’s basement. And when bombs fell next to our house, the walls shook. So we wanted to take the kids somewhere else. »

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Nurse of a surrogacy baby

It was a gesture by Natalia that allowed all three to evacuate safely. “My husband has an American friend who had two babies from Ukrainian surrogates,” she says. He suggested that I should be a nanny for another baby to take to his parents. For this action I would be helped from the Ukraine. »

The little creature of only three days is born of surrogacy (GPA). His parents, French, want him back more than anything, but they cannot enter Ukraine. Natalia lived in Pereiaslav, two hours from Kyiv, so she accepted the mission.

The mother explains: “I never wanted to leave the country. I did this for my children’s safety because I saw that they were scared. My husband and I decided that her life was the most important thing and that we would try to protect her in any way we could. So I took on this huge responsibility of taking care of the child. »

The infant was in an air-raid shelter in a children’s room with other babies born by GPA. Until the parents could pick them up and their surrogate mothers left town to go back to their families, the clinic hired local women to care for them. Nataliia took the French couple’s baby. “But I heard there were nineteen other babies somewhere in the basements of Kyiv,” she testifies.

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There is strong mutual support in the community of parents of children born in Ukraine through surrogacy. Sophie Labaune-Parkinson, 32, is the mother of a little boy and comes from Pont-Audemer. Mobilized, she calls a driver from Kyiv to take Natalia, her daughters and the baby to the border with Poland.

“We had a car and our driver knew the safest roads. The Ukrainian recalls that he came to where the baby was. I had no other choice because oil was hard to buy and it was dangerous to go alone because you didn’t know where there were air raids. “During the journey she takes care of the newborn: “In the car I had to hold his bottle between my legs so that he didn’t get cold!” »

Near the border, Natalia had to walk in the cold with the baby for forty minutes. Natalia explains: “The baby’s parents came to the border between Poland and Ukraine. I helped the French father across the border to pick up the child because I couldn’t enter Poland with someone else’s child, it’s not legal. “And in the end, the happy parents were able to hold their child in their arms!

At Poland, the parents and Sophie suggest that Nataliia flee to France. “At first I wanted to stay in Poland, but it was complicated because there were already a lot of Ukrainians in centers, high schools … I thought it would be a good idea to go further, even more so if someone asks you to come, ” She says.

She takes the train to Berlin with her daughters. Then the baby’s parents rent a car to return to the south of France. From there they finally take the train to Paris and finally a friend of Sophie’s aunt Sébastien takes them to Cormeilles.

A wonderful welcome

When they arrived after six days of travel, many residents showed solidarity. Starting with Sophie’s aunt Isabelle. “My niece asked me to help this woman and her two children,” says the interpreter of her profession. And Natalia was heroic! She posted a message on Facebook asking the Cormeillais for help.

“I was very well received here, thank you Nataliia. I hadn’t expected that at all. It’s great to see such wonderful people! Zora has lent the family much of their home, including five lavish apartment offerings. Aurora and David gave a rose and a cell phone, and their daughter became friends with Kristina. At Aurore’s request, the Sainte-Marie private school agreed “without hesitation” to educate and feed the two young Ukrainians free of charge. And last week the greatest, Valeria, entered Europe College.

Surrogacy children are stranded in Ukraine

Ukraine is the country with the most legal surrogacy after the United States, between 1,000 and 4,000 per year for around €40,000. Since the beginning of the war, a network of parents of children born in Ukraine through surrogacy has mobilized to collect newborns and evacuate surrogate mothers or former surrogate mothers. Sophie Labaune-Parkinson, the French woman who asked her aunt to welcome Nataliia, is one of them. “An American mother contacted me and said a woman with two daughters wanted to leave Ukraine. We wanted to put her in a convoy but we asked if she could take care of a baby and give it to her parents. She was absolutely brilliant. »
Born without a uterus due to Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser Syndrome (or MRKH), Sophie Labaune-Parkinson, originally from Pont-Audemer, gave birth to a boy two years ago thanks to a GPA in Ukraine. The Australian-based young woman jailed in France had struggled to pick him up in June 2020. Today the situation for babies is even more critical: “Clinics have almost been closed and are forced to hire people to take care of the babies. Others will do anything to get parents to come or find nannies like Nataliia. These babies, who are born without their parents, are considered stateless in Ukraine. And the surrogate mothers, often divorced women who want to house their families, are leaving Kyiv.
During surrogacy, embryos formed from the father’s and mother’s gametes are deposited in the surrogate mothers. In France, the ban on this practice was confirmed by the bioethics law. “As long as there is transparency, respect… defends Sophie. Some agencies do things well, others not so much. And I see money as financial compensation. If I can help a person and they can help me, what’s the problem? A February Ifop poll estimated that 71% of French people support surrogacy.

As soon as they arrived, the Haras bar offered them coffee and meals. The Secours Catholique delivered food. €800 was raised for a kitten. Hélène donated school supplies. The Cormeilles karate and Lisieux taekwondo clubs have welcomed young girls to their ranks “because exercise contributes to mental health after trauma”; moreover, the Cormeilles psychologist offered her support to the small family, at the request of the mayor, who received Nataliia.

And Isabelle accompanied her when she went to the authorities to collect it a renewable six-month residence permit with their right to work, but also a bank account, a telephone tariff … “She’s like my godmother, the fairy godmother,” smiles the refugee. In the future, Nataliia plans to resume her work as an English teacher and rent permanent housing. Above all, she hopes that peace will return to Ukraine as soon as possible and that she will see her husband again.

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