“I’m your daughter, can we meet?”

Too young to care for a baby, Amy had no choice but to put her daughter up for closed adoption. She was sad because she knew she would probably never see her baby again. But that all changed 18 years later when she received a letter.

In 1995, Amy Erickson was just 17 years old when she put her baby up for closed adoption. It was a particularly difficult decision, but at the time it was his only solution.

The new mum had spent the last few months feeling conflicted and confused about what the future held for her if it turned out she was pregnant.

[Gauche] Amy Erickson holds her daughter after giving birth; [À droite] Amy Erickson and her daughter smile in a selfie. | Source: facebook.com/Like what counts

After weeks, Amy finally went to a center and was looked after by a counselor. The latter thus confirmed what she feared, namely that she was 11 weeks pregnant.

The young woman then informed her parents and her boyfriend, but knew that the coming weeks would be difficult.

Amy, who was still in college at the time, tried to live her life the way she had pre-pregnancy. She then went to school and worked full time to keep herself busy. However, she had to deal with morning sickness and her difficult new routine brought on by looks.

Initially, her boyfriend brought up the subject of marriage, but in reality they were too young to be parents and the thought of having and caring for a baby terrified them both.

Walking around with a bulging stomach made Amy embarrassed in the eyes of others who stole glances at her and stared at her stomach.

She was also told to hide her stomach in church and was banned from participating in activities with her age group.

Amy’s parents’ insurance could not cover a dependent pregnancy. Because of this, she had to endure terrible and embarrassing treatment from doctors and nurses. Although her parents and boyfriend were supportive, Amy felt sad and lonely because of her situation.

As the due date neared, many people, including her parents and pastor, advised her to consider putting her baby up for adoption. But Amy insisted she wouldn’t.

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About six months into her pregnancy, she realized that the thought of taking care of the baby wasn’t something she could do. So Amy contacted an adoption agency and decided to give up her little girl.

She found solace in the thought that she was giving her baby to a family who needed her badly and that they would love and care for her. Amy could also see her future more clearly if she didn’t have a toddler to worry about.

In April 1995, after 20 hours of labor, Amy gave birth to a baby girl. For the next two days, the new mom tried to spend as much time with her baby as possible before the agency took her away.

In the end, however, she gave up her parental rights and sadly watched as her baby was taken away from her. She then spent the next two weeks heartbroken.

The closed adoption meant no contact between her and the child, apart from a few photos and letters, until the girl was one year old.

Over the next 18 years, Amy went to college, married twice, and had four more children. She tried not to think about her little girl the whole time, but the emptiness she felt never went away. She didn’t expect to see her child again until a letter turned everything upside down.

Amy’s daughter was just days away from her 18th birthday when she sent a letter to her birth mother asking her to meet her. Four months later, Amy drove five hours to see her adult daughter for the first time. She explained that the experience was terrifying but amazing.

They spent the weekend talking and laughing, and Amy realized just how much her daughter looked like her. This observation had made him realize his sadness at not having been close to his daughter all these years. She was grateful to the family but sad that she had not seen her daughter grow up.

After that week, they continued to communicate and Amy even took her children to meet her sister. But once things settled down, she found it difficult to move on. Amy felt a deep sadness that she couldn’t control.

She decided to find support options and a Google search led her to an organization called Tied at the Heart. They organized weekend retreats for birth mothers in similar situations.

The woman attended her retreat where she met about 20 mothers who also had adoption experiences, and while their experiences were all different, they knew how Amy felt.

Knowing that she was not alone and that her feelings were valid brought Amy so much relief and gave her an opportunity to recover from her sadness. Since then she has found peace after her adoption experience thanks to the opportunity to share her knowledge with other women in the same situation as her.

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