When a baby is born, some couples and those around them hope it will be a girl, others a boy, and some don’t care. Unfortunately for a mother-to-be, her husband and in-laws have a strong penchant for the extreme. They wanted the baby to be a boy at all costs unless it was a girl. Their reaction since they found out about it is just amazing and unbearable.
The family hoped for a boy
The mom-to-be testifies to her story on Reddit. She is pregnant with her first child and it is the parents-in-law’s first grandchild to be born. When she asked her if the child could take her husband’s father’s father’s first name if it was a boy, she said yes. From then on it went downhill. The family decided to do everything to make him a boy: prayers, strange rituals… Forgetting a very important fact: the sex of a baby cannot be chosen. “I didn’t like it, but I accepted to keep the peace”confide in this woman.
The problem is, it didn’t stay that way. During her last ultrasound, she found out she was expecting a baby girl. “My husband cried in the car and turned off his phone to hide it from his family before finally telling them. His mother and the others clearly expressed their frustration and disappointment, which bothered me because my daughter deserves to to be celebrated but they ignored me for more days”she remembers.
As if that wasn’t hard enough, her in-laws decided to call the baby a boy. “They kept coming and calling my daughter ‘my son’, claiming the ultrasound results were fake and claiming it was a boy. I’ve had several arguments with them because they refused to stop and my husband still sided with them knowing how wrong and unreasonable they are.”She explains.
The family is organizing a baby shower… for a boy
The situation was such that she did not speak to her in-laws “in a moment”. “My sister-in-law called me to apologize and let me know she was throwing me a baby shower. I was so excited and happy. But when I arrived I saw blue balloons, a blue cake with my father-in-law’s name on it as well as the decorations. I was so confused that I had to sit down. My sister-in-law explained to me that they “still have hope” that the results were wrong and that it was a boy. I looked at my husband and he agreed with her. I lost my temper and yelled at them and said they were delusional and they needed to stop treating my daughter like she was unwanted and pretending she didn’t exist by throwing a party for “their imaginary grandson” arranged. My mother-in-law started crying, I grabbed my bag and left immediately.”says this pregnant woman.
“They started screaming and my husband followed me outside saying that by doing so I had insulted his family and the memory of his father. I told him to wake up and see how crazy his family’s behavior was. He said they needed time to accept that the baby was a girl and not a boy as they wanted and insisted I play along because “they will understand quickly”. So I called an Uber and left. He was furious and called me fifteen times and then texted me that he wouldn’t be coming home until I “brought my ass back” to apologize for screwing up everything they did for me and said they were mentally unstable, I haven’t answered yet, but he keeps urging me to work things out with his family before he talks about whatever else.”testifies the young woman.
On the forum, netizens are worried about this future mother and her daughter. “If you don’t want your daughter to be raised by a bunch of misogynists, I would seriously consider getting out of this immediately.”replies one person. “You already know how your daughter is treated in this family. It’s time to look at your life […] will be and what your daughter’s life will be like, and making difficult decisions”, a second member abounds from Reddit. Someone else advises her to reconsider her relationship with her husband: “Let’s ignore your in-laws, they’re delusional… But a much bigger problem is that your husband allows it. He needs to apologize and promise you that he will change his unacceptable behavior and you need to think about your future.”
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