Since Ukraine and Russia entered the war, a climate of fear and concern seems to have settled in France. It is difficult to escape from this anxiety-provoking news and children are not left out. But how can you approach the issue with them without making an already delicate situation worse? How to deal with these messages that can greatly affect the morale of our little ones? Here are some pointers.
1 – Don’t anticipate questions
Although we were all children, we often find it difficult to put ourselves in their shoes. How do little beings perceive the world? Here’s a big question that we won’t find an answer to today. Nevertheless, a conclusion can be drawn from this. It is not because the war in Ukraine and its possible consequences in France are on your mind that this is the case with your offspring.
So if your kids don’t ask you about him, don’t necessarily try to anticipate them and address the issue yourself. Leave the little ones to their world again, and luckily, steeped in innocence.
2 – Just react when they occur
Contrary to the previous point, It is more than important to answer the questions asked. children feel everything. So if you’re always evasive and constantly avoiding the topic, The little ones risk imagining a reality that is even worse than it already is.
If the opportunity arises use simple words. Don’t exaggerate, don’t understate. Remember that you talk to children and that they understand them better, It’s important to draw parallels with the ideas they’re dreaming up. The little ones, for example, will understand much better “There is a big fight because Russia attacked its neighbor Ukraine” rather than “Russia declared war on Ukraine and invaded it”.
3 – Do not expose them to very constant information and social networks
Much of the anxiety and stress that the war in Ukraine causes for us French, most of whom are not directly affected, comes from our overexposure to information. Continuous chain operations add information that overloads the mind. The same applies to social networks, which also do not always provide verified information.
And if with our grown-up eyes and understanding we are already struggling to manage this overload, Imagine what a bath of fear this could plunge children into. So watch out for the TV on while you eat, the radio in the car… If you have teenagers, Give them some reputable media names to turn to.
4 – We shift the focus of the questions to get something positive out of them
So that your children are not stuck with a negative and possibly fear-provoking observation, You can try to distract the conversation a bit. With that, you’re approaching the topic they’re asking about, have their questions answered, but move beyond the news so they retain something less sad from this discussion. “Where is Ukraine? What language is spoken there? What does their flag look like?” So many easy questions your child will give the impression of knowing more without increasing the mental load.
If it’s important to you, you can too open to solidarity initiatives who were and still are. You can even suggest participate by accompanying you to make some purchases for a collection for example. In order to, Your little one will remember this moment of humanity rather than the atrocities of war as such.
I hope that these few tips could help you to open the dialogue. If you only had to remember one thing: It’s only children who still see the world through little children’s eyes.